Lately, us girls have been on my mind. There has been a lot on my mind actually but girls have really stuck out lately.
When I say “girls” I mean all of us. All of the millennial girls who have to survive in this society with the constant tension and confusion from everyone else.
We are supposed to still be classy and ladylike because, apparently, “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife” *cue biggest eyeroll of my life*
At the same time, “its 2017!! Don’t let that mindset keep you stuck in the ‘50s!!” *more eyerolling*
It’s honestly stressful. Constantly being torn in one direction or another by either our families, friends, or significant others. What’s a girl to do?
There are so many details girls have for their ways and reasoning’s behind their casual hook-ups and its none. of. your. business... NONE.
~casual~ could many things. You could be casually with different guys or going steady with the same guy but your relationship isn’t going anywhere beyond the bedroom.
The casual hook-up scene in our society, especially in college, is literally taking over our lives. Whether you are actively participating in it (#yougogirl) or just listening to your friends’ stories about their wild weekend (#thatsokaytoo), it’s around us.
What if you’re like “neither of those fit me” and you’re one of the many who are conflicted. You are a hopeless romantic and are longing for the fairytale love life but the one just has yet to come around.
Well, sister, you are not alone. I’m willing to bet $3 that if you ask around, other’s will be right in your shoes. If you asked me, I’d owe you $3. It may seem like everyone and their sister is casually hooking up more than they aren’t but trust me, that’s just not the case.
I know girls in all three categories- they’re doing it, not doing it, or do it and then are like “ehhhh.”
Why are we like this?
Are we actually doing more harm than good if we do decide to casually hook-up?
Have you ever laid in your (or his) bed, thinking “what the hell did I just do?” because you know that you aren’t this impulsive person?
Maybe the bars and that final drink before the Uber was called got the best of you that night. Could have been over a friend’s place and things just escalated. All of us can relate to this at some point. Knowing that it might not have been your brightest decision but it’s over and done with now.
If you are feeling stuck in this rut of “to hook-up or to not” and feel your past decisions could have been better, again you are not alone. I know you and your friends have talked about this before. We all do it, a big group of girls gossiping about our troubled lives.
Sometimes we just get tired of waiting for Prince Charming to come out of the woods and sweep us off of our feet and just want immediate satisfaction.
“So, tell us what happened!” need I say more? I guess you could say some of us get excited to talk about the spontaneity in our lives.
Does anyone care for my opinion in these? Who knows, but here it goes; I’m all for this culture. I think if you are being safe and are making smart decisions then how can anyone judge you?
But like I said in a previous post, if this is something you decided to do because you are trying to get back at someone or suppress your own feelings then I would have to say… let’s take a sec to reevaluate!
You don’t want to be making such a huge decision thinking about what someone who isn’t even in it a part of the equation, things just get messy.
Last night, you slept with that guy who did you wrong last time? You were up at 2 am and received the dreaded “wyd” text and responded to it?
I want this to be loud and clear-
This does not make you a slut or easy and you aren’t diminished to your late-night actions, one night stands, etc.
BUT WHAT IF YOU ARE THAT PERSON WHO ISN’T CASUALLY HOOKING UP
I see you girls. You have all the right to not participate in it. I’m willing to bet you have a little bit less stress than those who are (maybe not).
Maybe it just isn’t in your interest to do it, maybe you’re one lucky gal and are not single, or you have something with someone and you’re happy with that you two have.
And honestly, what the girls decide to do make me happy. I am a firm believer in girls supporting girls because we only have each other in the end.
We are just a bunch dumb millennials, killing every industry so why would anyone think we should have our personal lives together?